So, while working on bugs my sister decided to send me a message through an old IM account that I leave logged in at the office.
we need to let this hate go, already
I started typing. I started typing a response...
While typing she added:
fine, when u need family, noone will be there to help..I tried and I'm tired of the lagging, pathetic, lame fighting..There is more to fight in Iraq than in family
Then I finished and sent:
We need to stop starting conversations with what you believe I need to do. You need to acknowledge that this isn't hate this is indifference. You need to realize it's going to take more than you telling me to 'put behind me' what you and my birth mother by name have done to me over the years, to make me care about what you want. I have a happy, healthy, and drama free life now. Every interaction with you and her has only lead to more personal drama, grief, stress, and sometimes debt. Until such time as you realize that... I really don't have much care about what you think, "we" need.
As for 'when I need a family', the reason I walked away was because when "I needed a family" I got the above problems. I have made my own family. And I can depend on them. Thank you for your time. Please contemplate what I've written. Good bye.
Then I logged off.
My name IS Andrei.
I refused to be a victim and I refuse to be a victim now.
I'm a survivor of emotional abuse.
No Pity. No Shame. No Silence.